AITA? My husband (M26) pretends I’m (F24) invisible as a “joke”. I hate it.

Let me start by saying I love my husband Jeremy very much. He’s my best friend, we started dating in high school and I’ve never so much as looked at anybody else. The best day of my life was when he proposed to me, followed by our wedding day, which was exactly as I planned it and like a wonderful fairy tale come true.

And honestly, married life has only gotten better. I love being so close with Jeremy, having him come home to arms every evening, constantly chatting throughout the day, and knowing where he always is and what’s he always doing. I’ve never felt so close and warm with someone and I’m loving it.

However, Jeremy has started doing this thing- where he pretends he can’t see or hear me and it’s driving me insane. Like, I’ll call him or say something, and he won’t answer, or even turn around. I’ll raise my voice, louder and louder until I’m practically shrieking, and he still won’t respond. Eventually, I’ll get up in his face, or shake his arm and he’ll say “oh sorry honey, I must have switched off for a minute” or something stupid like that.

He used to do it once in a while at first, saying it was a joke.  He’s walk into the bedroom and got into bed without acknowledging me, and when I cuddled up to him he’d remain unresponsive. Then he’d say “Gotcha! I was pretending you were invisible, see how long I could hold out!” I played along the first few times, but it grew old really fast on me, and I told him I hate it and he needs to stop doing this. “relax honey, I’m only teasing ya!” he’d say.

If anything, he’s doing it even more, especially since our car crash a few days ago. Things have honestly been in a haze since then, and I know he definitely came to visit me in hospital once, so I don’t want to be too harsh on him. But I was released soon after- and he didn’t even come to pick me up. I didn’t even have proper clothes to wear home! The nurses told me I didn’t need any, I could just leave in my hospital gown which was weird, but ok.

So I went home by myself – luckily we didn’t live that far off- and waited for him.

He came home, I jumped up to hug him and he looked right through me. I called him but he wouldn’t respond. He left the living room where I was, turning the light off as he left, leaving me in the dark. That really freaked me out.

What should I do Reddit? How can I make him see me? This is driving me crazy, I love him so much, can’t he understand he is destroying me like this?