Throwaway for obvious reasons.

I have been with my boyfriend “John” (fake name) for the last 2 years, and we’ve lived together for the last year. I do try to trust him, but I’ve caught him a few times talking to other women so my trust is a little limited I admit. He’s sworn he would never do it again though, I believed him until recently.

The problem is “Anna” (also a fake name). Anna has been with us for the last 6 months, and she has always been a pain in the ass for me, to be honest I hate her. She’s always complaining and is loud enough to keep us up at night. She cries if we refuse to help her with anything, I feel like she’s manipulating us whenever she wants food or anything else that she’s just too lazy to get, but John always gets her what she wants. I want her to go but John is always saying we can’t do that, she needs us, she has nowhere else to go. All that standard stuff.

I thought he was just being nice to her, but now I’m not so sure. He’s talking to her a lot, and spending a lot of time with her. He’s starting to stay up late in her room. I caught him cuddling her last night. I once thought I heard him say he loves her! He denies anything is happening and calls me crazy, but I know that I’m not.

I tried talking to her, but she just cries more. John and I had a big fight about this last night, and I’ve made some decisions. The first is that I need some space from John to feel more sane, so he’s agreed to move back with his dad for a few weeks to save the relationship. The other is that I am making it clear to Anna that I won’t be helping her any more. I’m not doing anything for her. It doesn’t matter how much she cries. I can hear her crying in her room now, but she’s not manipulating me any more.

I think it’s better to deal with this before she learns how to talk. AITA?