As a man in your boyfriends position, let me give you a bit of insight into how this makes us feel.
One. We are in a committed relationship, so my only option for intimacy is from my wife.
Two. I am denied constantly, and she literally does not care. This is demeaning, demoralizing, and just down right might you feel unwanted.
Three. She gave me a list of things that she wanted
me to change, I have done all the things she asked, she has done zero from my list that I gave her.
To make a long story short, she puts zero effort into our relationship.
Four. I use this analogy. Every time I ask and I get denied it builds another rock or brick in the wall she has built between us. She absolutely could not care less.
Five. She won’t do anything about it to change. She won’t talk to her doctors or anyone else for that matter.
Six. I am tired of being told no constantly but if she wants it I am expected to perform. Huge example of a double standard.
And if I get upset it’s all my fault.